Nagtutulungan Dapat ang mga Magulang at Guro sa Pag-agapay sa Batang Nag-aaral

Nagtutulungan Dapat ang Mga Magulang

At Guro sa Pag-agapay sa Batang Nag-aaral

Ni Apolinario Villalobos

 

Kadalasang maririnig sa magulang ng isang batang nag-aaral at nakitaan ng magaspang na ugali sa bahay ang, “yan ba ang itinuturo sa iyo ng titser mo?”. At ang titser namang taklesa o walang preno ang bibig ay nadudulas sa pagsabi sa batang sutil sa klasrum ng, “ganyan din siguro ang ginagawa mo sa inyo at hindi ka sinisita ng magulang mo!”

 

Kung may makitang hindi maganda sa isang batang nag-aaral, ang magulang at titser nito ay parehong may tungkulin sa pag-agapay o pag-alalay sa kanya upang mahubog nang maayos ang kanyang pagkatao habang lumalaki. Hindi sila dapat nagbabatuhan ng sisi. Dapat alalahaning magkaiba ang sitwasyon sa tahanan at sa paaralan kaya ang uri ng kanilang paghubog ay nagkakaiba rin, subalit may iisang layunin tungo sa kabutihan ng bata.

 

Ang mahirap lang ay kung ang mismong magulang ng bata ay wala man lang inilalaang panahon para sa anak dahil baka ni hindi man lang ito maipaghanda ng maayos na pagkain bago pumasok o di kaya ay mapaalalahanang magpakabait sa paaralan. Ganoong problema din ang kakaharapin ng bata kung ang titser niya ay hindi man lang makakapagparamdam ng pagiging “pangalawang magulang” sa labas ng tahanan. May ilang titser kasi na bukod sa malupit na sa mga bata ay halos nakatuon ang pansin sa mga oras ng recess, tanghali, at uwian.

 

May patakaran ngayon ang mga paaralan na dapat ay magulang o nakakatandang kapatid ang kumuha ng card ng batang nag-aaral, kaya sana ay gamitin ang pagkakataong ito upang maiparating ng mga guro ang mga hindi pangkaraniwang napansin nila sa bata. Ang problema lang ay kung sobra ang dami ng mga mag-aaral kaya hindi posible ang sinasabing “one on one” na pag-uusap ng guro at magulang. Subalit may kasabihan na kung kinakailangan ay may magagawang paraan, at diyan masusukat ang katapatan ng isang guro sa kanyang layunin, ganoon din ang magulang na nagbigay ng buhay sa bata na hindi naman humiling na siya ay iluwal.

 

 

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Hazing…an eye-opener with the onset of the school year opening

Hazing
…a eye-opener with the onset of school year opening
By Apolinario Villalobos

Now and then, front pages of newspapers scream expositions on deaths that result from hazing. Investigations are conducted. Parents and concerned organizations hold rallies to put an end to the fatal ritual…and most often, they bark at the wrong tree.

There is already a law against it. Some schools ban fraternities. The police is doing its part. Meanwhile, concerned parents and organizations forgot to call the attention of other parents, especially, the students, themselves. The fact is that, most students who join fraternities to have a feeling of security and belongingness, are already of age, and know what they are doing, yet they do it. They read news about death resulting from hazing, yet, they take the risk by still joining.

With all those mentioned circumstances, why should parents blame the school?…and the police who cannot solve the crime immediately? Some parents blame the world, but themselves and their sons and daughters who upon entering the portal of colleges and universities become ambitious and arrogant. These sons and daughters thought that they can have a share of prominence in the campus by joining fraternities, and have their fingers or knuckles bear the mark of affiliation.

Some parents of hazing victims, on the other hand, insist that they did their part by warning their sons about joining such kind of organization. Really?… It has been found out that parents of some students who died from hazing belong to the fraternity that the departed tried to be part of! Some parents are even known to remind their sons and daughters to see to it that the fraternity that they will join, also has government officials as members, so that the latter can be approached for help in times of need. The price of selfishness is too expensive, indeed!

Some schools are doing the right thing by letting their students sign a release waiver, so that they will not be blamed if the latter would insist on joining a fraternity. The police is not in the position to pass on the blame, in view of the existing law, because it is their duty to solve a crime. Besides, passing on the blame will not solve the problems on hazing that is pestering the campuses. Many cases of hazing that result to the death of neophytes are left unsolved, hence, relegated to the sidelines, with their folders turning yellow and accumulating dust in filing cabinets of courts.

Doubts are floating if hazing can be possibly put to a stop, as officers of the fraternities involved are entrenched in the different nooks and corners of the government, with some even staff of schools, and who just remain silent every time a new case hits the pages of newspapers and aired over TVs and radios. Helplessness and futility of the effort is very evident.

The hazing victims have been given the opportunity to enjoy a much coveted, but expensive education, but they wasted it because of their arrogant social climbing attitude and desire to be part of the elite crowd in the campus. And, most unfortunately, many students who were known to be shy, have learned to smoke and imbibe alcoholic drinks after joining fraternities.

Before viewers who are members of fraternities will misjudge me, I would like to make it clear that I am not referring to all students as arrogant with social climbing attitudes that push them to join fraternities. Most, especially, I am not contending that all parents are selfish enough as to encourage their children to join fraternities known for their members who are government officials. I know that there are still many students who are sane enough to make use of the hard-earned money of their benefactors – parents, elder brothers or sisters, by focusing their mind in their studies.

A student need not join a fraternity to shine in the school campus. The school is intended for learning and not for negative socializing.