There is a popular adage, “life is what we make it”. All of us have limitations, hence, it follows that the life we live is based on our best effort, but hampered by limitations. We cannot be like what others are. We can strive, yes…but the result may not be the same as what others have accomplished. The problem with some of us is that they dream to be like somebody else which is impossible. Successful people can be looked up to as models or be admired, but cannot be exactly copied.
Success is relative. The degree and kind of success varies. In this regard, to avoid getting disappointed, one should accept what he has accomplished based on his capability and just strive a little harder to be able to accomplish more. He should not feel bad, for instance, because he did not become a manager like his friend, or a physician like another friend, or a mayor, etc.
Those who develop grudge because of their “failure” supposedly, equate success to fame which is wrong. Others feel that just because they did not become famous like others, they have become a failure. I can say that such kind of feeling is a manifestation of jealousy which breeds grudge….nothing else. Success in life is the happiness and contentment one feels every morning as he wakes up to another day….it is the joy felt in what he does.
We should not be occupied with gawking at what others are doing or be jealous with what they have accomplished. Each one of us has a different kind of life to live and concerns much different from the rest. On the other hand, the jealous attitude is most often the result of unnecessary and unhealthy rivalry in offices and other work sites. This is called professional jealousy which affects the operation and atmosphere.
Finally, successful people may wonder why some friends have suddenly kept a distance from them for no reason at all that they know of. There is something for these shunned successful people to ponder about…jealousy developed by their friends who have the habit of comparing themselves with others. Such unnecessary feeling made them jealous resulting to grudge that time may not expunge easily. My suggestion: a change in attitude…by being positive in living one’s life….and changing it for the better.
Failed Expectation Breeds
Disappointment and Discouragement
…but we should move on
By Apolinario Villalobos
Honestly now, disappointment and discouragement can really result from failed expectations. However, this should not hold us from moving on. The failure should instead give us more impetus to go ahead, no matter what. It should serve as an inspiration and a lesson on which our next moves should be founded.
Many stories are told about great artists who suffered not only one or two but series of failures before finally, achieving fame. Inventors were even ridiculed when they presented their ideas. The same is true with many businessmen who suffered bankruptcies before finally achieving the recognition as business tycoons. These people showed that success in life is sweetest if achieved the hard way.
The most popular encouragement that we hear is, “….no pain, no glory”. Achievers who made use of such guidance should be thankful to whoever first said that. If we set our eyes towards a certain goal, we should expect trials along the way….and with those, we should also expect failures.
Now, if we do not want to get disappointed in life, we should restrain ourselves from having an ambition. We should be contented with we have at the moment. We should be prepared for a stagnant life, as well as, heartaches if we find ourselves left behind by others who struggle by all means to move up or ahead. On the other hand we deserve the heartaches because in the first place, it was our choice not to experience failures. Lastly, as a reminder, the fact is that, regrets always come at the end.