The Power of Self-Encouragement

The Power of Self- Encouragement

By Apolinario  Villalobos

 

 

To be inspired by what we accomplish through our own effort should not be misconstrued as being narcissistic.  Making us realize that we can do some things without being dependent on others should give us more impetus to strive mores. However, we should always remember  not to be buoyed by arrogance.  To develop the trait of self-encouragement  in us is not easy. If we are used to the hovering of our parents since childhood, our personality becomes soft, so that along the way of our life, even a simple impediment makes us falter.

Earning accomplishments in life through self-encouragement is like saving coins in a piggy bank. The increasing weight of the piggy bank due to the accumulated coins encourages us to drop more through the slot. Squandering some saved coins, is like putting to use some of what we have accomplished into useless endeavor. This can be avoided if we will be always reminded by an old adage, that  we cannot turn back the hands of time, and as I may add, so do mistakes committed that cannot be undone. Care is then very necessary to prevent this.

Meanwhile, successful people driven by self-encouragement can tremendously inspire others, especially, today which is smarting from the frustrating steady rise of unemployment. A  person suffers from disappointment if he fails to land a job after his first attempt, and in this situation, it is important that the person should convince himself that he is facing one of the realities of life – cutthroat competition in applying for a job, for which persistence can help. He must realize the need to do counter moves or strategies to be competitive.

To make self-encouragement work, some people switch to other fields of endeavor, some of which are a far cry from the course that are stated in their diplomas. There was a time in the past when the most in demand job was for nurses to fill up vacancies in European hospitals and healthcare institutions. There was a mass switching of course from medicine to nursing, and even those with license in medicine, went back to school to desperately take a course in nursing.  This effort somehow helped, even at the expense of pride – imagine a doctor, willing to work as nurse or a caregiver. As the ultimate goal is financial gain, those who attained it, thought that they did just the right thing.

Self-encouragement is a necessary element for survival.  The will to have a useful life after retirement or after having been partially incapacitated by an accident, needs even a bit of self-encouragement. In this instance, the government does its part by offering programs for senior citizens and persons with disability (PWD’s). In this situation, self-encouragement as a force is more crucial than those coming from other people. The strength to move on should first come from within a person. External strength becomes useful to further prop him up steadily.

self confidence

 

Advertisements

Mag-ingat sa Paggamit ng Salitang “Festival”

Mag-ingat sa Paggamit ng Salitang “Festival”

Ni Apolinario Villalobos

 

The word “festival” connotes pageantry, a showy presentation about a certain thing being promoted. If something is ATTACHED to it such as “rice”, for example, to come up with “Rice Festival”, dapat ay may maipakitang iba’t ibang uri ng “rice” – mga bagong ani na nasa tangkay, hindi pa nagiling o palay pa lang na bagong ani pero wala na sa tangkay, mga iba’t ibang variety ng bigas, mga iba’t ibang kakaning pang-meryenda gawa sa bigas na malagkit, o iba’t ibang uri ng pagluto nito gamit ang kawayan, palayok, o tela na ginagawa ng mga sundalo sa kabundukan.

 

If the festival is about egg, halimbawa pa rin…then, let it be called “Egg Festival”. But make sure that the egg is among the primary products of the place that is promoting it para hindi nakakahiya at lumabas lang na naggagaya sa iba pang lugar na MARAMING FESTIVAL. Kung “Egg Festival”, dapat ay may iba’t ibang uri ng itlog – manok, itik, pato, pugo, bugok, balut. At, iba’t ibang pagkaluto tulad ng torta, leche flan, sopas….o, pagpinta ng design sa shells. Pwede ring magpakita ng mga handicraft na ginamitan ng egg shells.

 

Sa kapistahan ng Our Lady of the Candles o Seῆora de la Candelaria ay napansin ko ang kasamang  nakasulat na announcement sa tarpaulin na, “Candela Festival” ….at ikinagulat ko. Kung ang ibig sabihin ng “candela” ay “kandila”….nasaan ang mga kandila?…iba’t ibang hugis o kulay man lang ng kandila? At isa pa, hindi produkto ng Tacurong ang kandila. Hindi na dapat gumamit pa ng “candela festival” para lang magkaroon ng impression na malaking event ang kapistahan ng Our Lady of the Candles. KUNG ANG “CANDELA” AY PINAIKLING “CANDELARIA”, ITO AY ISANG OUTRIGHT NA MISINFORMATION!

 

Hindi dahil ang patron ng Tacurong ay Birheng may hawak na kandila ay kailangan nang magkaroon ng “candela festival”…o “kandila festival” kung ito ang ibig tukuyin, dahil lalabas ito na pagta- “trying hard” o pagmamaang-maangan. Sa uulitin, hindi produkto ng Tacurong ang kandila, dahilan para ma-promote ito.  Okey na kasama sa pista ang singing contest, tiyangge, perya (Spanish –feria) na may mga palaro, ferris wheel, etc., at beauty contest dahil talaga din namang kasama ang mga nabanggit sa pagdaos ng pista mula pa noong panahon ng Kastila.

 

Ang kapistahan sa February 2 ay pagbubunyi sa Birheng Maria at kung mayroon mang mahalagang dapat gawin ay ang pagdasal ng rosary sa mga barangay…palipat-palipat ng imahen niya sa mga barangay na pagrorosaryuhan at ang pinaka-bisperas ng pista ay para sa pagbalik  nito sa simbahan. Para naman sa prusisyon, dapat ay i-encourage ang mga dadalo na magdala ng imahen ni Birhen Maria na nilalagay sa altar ng bahay upang maisali sa okasyon pagkatapos basbasan ng pari sa simbahan.

 

ANG BIRHENG MARIA NA MAY HAWAK NA KANDILA  AT BATANG HESUS,  AY TANYAG NA SA BUONG MUNDO KAYA HINDI NA KAILANGAN PANG GAMITAN NG KUNG ANU-ANO PA UPANG MAGKAROON NG ANYONG “FESTIVAL” ANG SAGRADONG OKASYON PARA SA KANYA.

 

KUNG ANG LAYUNIN NAMAN AY PARA MAKAHATAK NG MGA TURISTA, HAYAAN ANG MGA ITONG HUMUSGA KUNG KARAPAT-DAPAT BANG BALIK-BALIKAN….HUWAG MAGING “TRYING HARD”.  HIGIT SA LAHAT, DAPAT ALALAHANING DINADAOS ANG PISTA BILANG PAGPAPAKITA NG MGA TACURONGNON NG MASIDHING PANANAMPALATAYA NILA SA BIRHENG MARIA DAHIL SA KADAKILAAN NITO….AT HINDI DAHIL SA KUNG ANU-ANO PA.

 

Si Bhai Guianida Tulino at ang Mababait niyang Mga Anak

SI BHAI GUIANIDA TULINO AT ANG MABABAIT NIYANG MGA ANAK
ni Apolinario Villalobos

 

Nagkakape ako sa paborito kong pastillan this morning, bandang 5:30AM nang may dumating na isang tricycle at nagsibabaan ang mga pasahero na ang nanay ay halatang nag-oopisina at ang tatlong kasama ay mga estudyante, pero ang pinakabunso ay halatang hindi pa pumapasok sa eskwela.

 

Ang dumating ay sina BHAI GUIANIDA TULINO, mga anak niyang siya BHAI PRINCESS, BHAI QUEEN, DATU HARIPHEN, at ang bunso na si DATU PRINCE. Si Bhai Guianida ay isang teacher sa Datu Saudi (Maguindanao), Si Bhai Princess, 16 years old ay nag-aaral sa SKSU, si Bhai Queen, 14, ay sa SMIT, at si Datu Hariphen, 12 ay sa Tacurong Pilot Elementary School. Ang bunso na si Datu Prince ay hindi pa nag-aaral at isinasama ng kanyang nanay sa school. Parehong consistent top students sa kanilang school sina Bhai Princess at Bhai Queen.

 

Umaalis ang mag-iina sa kanilang bahay pagkatapos nilang magdasal sa madaling araw, bandang 4:30AM. Pagdating sa pastilan ay pinapakain niya agad ang mga anak at binibigyan ng baon. Tila ritwal na sa kanila ang kanilang ginagawa tuwing umaga, kasama ang pagmamadaling pag-alis ni Bhai Guianida upang humabol sa first trip o second trip man lang ng aircon van na may biyaheng Cotabato City. Pagdating daw sa junction na patungo sa Datu Saudi ay sumasakay na siya sa tricycle papunta sa school nila.

 

MATINDING OBLIGASYON ANG GINAGAMPANAN NI BHAI GUIANIDA NA ISANG WIDOWER…SINCLE MOM…PERO DINADAAN NIYA ANG LAHAT SA NGITI.

Nang magkita kami sa pastilan ay nagtiwala agad sila sa akin kay pinagbigyan nila ang hiling kong kuhanan sila ng larawan na kailangan ko sa blog na sana ay maka-inspire sa mga single moms at mga estudyante upang maging seryoso sa kanilang pag-aaral.

 

MABUHAY KA BHAI GUIANIDA AT ANG IYONG MGA ANAK!
CONGRATULATIONS DIN SA PAGKAROON NG MABABAIT AT MATATALINONG MGA ANAK!…AT SA MGA ANAK NAMAN…ANG PAYO KO AY MAHALIN NINYO ANG INYONG NANAY DAHIL MAPALAD KAYO SA PAGKAROON NG ISANG URI NG NANAY NA TULAD NIYA…HANDANG MAGSAKRIPISYO PARA SA INYO!

1

The Propagation of Catholicism in Tacurong and How it Became the Nuestra Senora de la Candelaria Parish

The Propagation of Catholicism in Tacurong

And How It Became the Nuestra Seῆora de La Candelaria Parish

By Apolinario Villalobos

 

Before Tacurong became a parish, the Mass held at the makeshift chapel was celebrated by priests from Marbel (today, Koronadal City) and Cotabato City. The propagation of Catholcism in the struggling town whose political development began as a sitio of Buluan, was hastened by the opening of the Notre Dame campus for boys by the Oblates of Mary Immaculate (OMI) and girls by the Dominican (OP) nuns. The church stood between the mentioned campuses. The priests’ convent doubled as office and quarters for the Director of the Notre Dame for boys and the parish priest. On the other side of the church was the convent of the Dominican nuns. The Mass for the boys and girls was celebrated separately. Much later, when the Oblates of Notre Dame (OND) arrived, a convent for them was built beside the stage of the the Boys’ department.

 

The Nuestra Seῆora de la Candelaria became the patroness of Tacurong upon the recommendation of Mrs. Josefina Lechonsito who was enthralled and impressed by the Virgin’s image at Jaro, Iloilo. Mrs. Josefina Lechonsito was among the pioneer and well-loved teachers of the Notre Dame Boys’ and later, the College Department. Her suggestion was considered and soon as if on cue, prominent families, such as the Montillas, Lapuzes, Tulios, Velascos, Talmadges, French, Jarrels, Garcias, Espinosas, Lechonsitos,  and many others pitched in their resources for the establishment of the parish foundation and the transformation of the church into what it is today.  The bell was donated by Don Vicente and Doῆa Salud Garcia, Don Juan Garcia and his wife, Mrs. Maria Montilla, and Mrs. And Mrs. Roberto Tulio. The four massive posts for the bell tower were donated by Mr. Menandro Lapuz. A little later, other families joined the enthusiastic movement that led to the formation of civic and religious organizations.

 

The Knights of Columbus, Jaycees, Cursillo-Samaria, Legion of Mary were organized, as well as, their counterparts for the youth and students such as Student Catholic Action (SCA), CHIRO, The Encounterers’, and Columbian Squires. To ensure the consistency of the effort, senior high school students of the Notre Dame Girls Department were required to conduct catechism at the Tacurong Pilot Elementary School. The catechism was conducted even during school breaks and to encourage the attendance of the children, free cookies were given them, as provided by the Garcias who owned the first bakery in Tacurong. Much later, the PREX was also organized and whose effort was felt even in other parts of the province. Today, church groups are organized for specific purposes such as those for the family and youth, in accordance with the Vatican’s direction.

 

The early activities that involved seminars for the recruits of the SAMARIA and CURSILLO were alternately held at vacant rooms of the Boys and Girls Department. When enough fund was collected, a SAMARIA HOUSE was built at the back of the church. It was later used by Theology students of the College department for some of their activities. The other activities of the groups were held at Tamontaka in Cotabato City. During seminars, the “working committee” was always led by Mrs. Dominga Espaῆa who did the budgeting for the food and Mrs. Bonoc Cajandig who led the prayer before meals and taking care of the utensils.

 

The Girls Department of Notre Dame had their own organist during their Mass while the Boys Department had Ms. Tan, a pretty teacher as its own. When the Training Department (Elementary) was opened, separate Masses were also held for the pupils and their singing was conducted by Ernesto Cajandig. On the other hand, convent assistants, Agustin Carvajal, Romeo Balinas, Noel Niervo, and two other colleagues, as well as, members of the Knights of the Altar assisted the parish priest or his assistant in celebrating the Mass in the barrios. They were driven on the hardy jeep by a certain de los Reyes who also tinkered with the noisy generator every time it conked down. Agustin Carvajal also served as the soloist of the parish choir during the time, providing accompaniment with his guitar if the organist was not around.

 

During the fiesta for the patroness, “live” personification of the Virgin Mary enlivened the procession. Among those who played the role of the Virgin Mary were a certain Mojado, one of the pretty Tarrosa sisters who are known for their long hair, Concepcion Betita (Cainglet). The Notre Dame band with its few instruments provided the solemn processional hymns.

 

The feast for the patroness is held every February 2 and Tacurongnons are wishing that it should be consistently held without much fanfare and less expenses that would definitely come from their pockets. For the procession, simply decorated float for the image of patroness should be enough, with the CHURCH ACTIVITIES REVOLVING around her, and the feast not taking several days to celebrate to maintain solemnity that veils her.

 

IT SHOULD BE NOTED THAT WHAT IS BEING CELEBRATED, IS THE GLORY OF THE RECOGNITION GIVEN TO THE PATRONESS AS THE BEARER OF THE CANDLE THAT SYMBOLIZES THE LIGHT OF THE WORLD AND THOSE WHO ARE SEEKING THE PATH THAT LEADS TO SALVATION…NOT ANY DELICACY, FLOWER, BIRD, MUSIC, ETC. IF SOME SECTORS WOULD LIKE TO RIDE ON THE POPULARITY OF THE PATRONESS, THEY SHOULD DO THEIR CELEBRATION OUTSIDE THE CHURCH PREMISES, SO AS NOT TO TAINT THE RELIGIOSITY OF THE FEAST.

 

Ang Kapistahan ng Imahen ng Patron Saint

Ang Kapistahan ng Imahen ng Patron Saint

Ni Apolinario Villalobos

 

Suggestions kung ano SANA ang mangyari sa isang kapistahan ng patron ng isang barangay, bayan, o lunsod:

 

  • Hindi dapat haluan ng kung ano pang activities para CONCENTRATED LANG SA PATRON ANG LAHAT NG ACTIVITIES.

 

  • Kung pista ng isang maliit na bayan na may mga barangay, at least two weeks bago ang kapistahan, SANA ang imahe ng santo ay “pabisitahin” sa lahat ng barangay at hayaang mamalagi ng overnight man lang upang madasalan ng mga thanksgiving prayers, lalo na ng novena at rosary.

 

  • Pagkatapos ng “barangay visitation” ng santo ay ibalik sa simbahan para sa pagbisita naman sa kanya ng lahat ng mga deboto.

 

  • Sa araw ng prusisyon, SANA ay isang “float” lang ang gamitin, na ang nakasakay ay ang patron saint lang at ilang aalalay na tunay na deboto…hindi ang mga pumapapel na mga religious kuno.

 

  • Bago ang pagsapit ng araw ng prusisyon, SANA ay mag-announce ang parish priest ng pag-imbita sa mga deboto na magdala ng sarili nilang patron sa simbahan na bebendisyunan ng pari pagkatapos ng misa sa araw ng prusisyon.

 

  • Sa prusisyon, SANA ay kanya-kanyang bitbit ang mga deboto ng imahe ng patron nila na pwede namang isakay sa tricycle o kariton o topdown na sasakyan na may mga dekorasyon. Magandang magbitbit ng simbolo ng santo ang mga deboto, tulad halimbawa ng kay San Pedro Calungsod ay dahon ng palmer, ang kay San Isidro Labrador ay isang bungkos ng palay, ang sa Our Lady of the Candles ay kandila, etc.

 

  • Nasa pinakahuling bahagi ng prusisyon ang nag-iisang “float” na ang lulan o nakasakay ay ang imahe ng patron ng bayan.

 

  • Kung may mga produktong pwedeng isabay sa pista, SANA dapat ang tawag ay “EXHIBIT” lang, HINDI “FESTIVAL”. Halimbawa ay kung may isang barangay na gustong mag-exhibit ng giant yellow corn na produkto nito, okey lang. Kung may isang organization na gustong mag-exhibit ng kanilang handicraft, okey lang. Kung may gustong mag-exhibit ng giant bibingka na niluto niya, okey lang….etc. Kung may mga magulang na gustong mag-exhibit ng magandang anak nila na pang-beauty contest, okey lang….araw-araw, paistambayin sa loob ng booth nila na palaging nakangiti for photo opportunities.

 

  • Ang mga booth ay pwedeng ilagay sa isang bahagi ng bayan na ire-request sa mayor.

 

  • Hindi SANA pahirapan ng mga kung anu-anong kaek-ekan tulad ng contribution ang mga deboto para lang magamit sa pagpagawa ng mga floats na pang-contest bilang bahagi ng prusisyon. Nakatatawang isipin kung anong pa-contest ang gagawin para sa kapistahan ng isang patron….MAGPAPABONGGAHAN BA NG DAMIT NG PATRON?…MAGPAPADAMIHAN BA NG BULAKLAK SA SASAKYAN NITO NA ITATAPON LANG SA BASURAHAN PAGKATAPOS BILHIN NG KUNG ILANG LIBONG PISO NAGALING SA BULSA NG MGA NAGHIHIRAP NA MGA DEBOTO NA HALOS HINDI MAKABILI NG ISANG KILONG TUYONG DILIS?

 

Sana ay matakot sa Diyos ang mga taong ang iniisip para sa kapistahan ng isang patron saint na DAPAT ay payak o simple pero ginagawang parang pista ng mga pagano.

Huwag Pagnasahan ang Hindi Iyo

Huwag Mong Pagnasahan Ang Hindi Iyo

Ni Apolinario Villalobos

 

  • Huwag mong pagnakawan ang iyon boss para lang masabing gumaganti ka dahil maliit ang suweldo mo. Mag-resign ka at maghanap ng ibang trabaho.

 

  • Huwag mong pagnasahan ang magandang asawa ng iba at baka maputulan ka ng pututoy….hindi man gawin sa iyo ng misis mo ay malamang asawa ng pinagnanasahan mo. Kung may pera ka pumunta ka na lang sa beerhouse dahil maraming maganda sa lugar na yan. Kung babae ka magtanong ka na lang sa kumare mo kung saan niya nadampot ang pogi niyang kulukadidang.

 

  • Kung collector ka ng isang kumpanya o gobyeno, i-remit mo ang nakolekta mo dahil darating ang panahong malalaman din ang ginagawa mong panloloko. Tandaan mong kaya ka na-hire ay dahil pinagkatiwalaan ka.

 

  • Huwag mong pagnasahan ang karangyaang pinagsikapan ng iba. Magsikap ka upang magkaroon din. Huwag kang mamatay sa inggit dahil kung ilalamay ka baka walang pupunta kung alam ang dahilan ng kamatayan mo – heart attack dahil sa inggit!

 

  • Huwag mang-apak ng iba upang umangat at maagaw mo ang recognition na dapat ay para sa inapakan o tinungtungan mo. Huwag mong pagnasahan ang kaalaman o skills ng iba dahil may ibang uring ganyan ang ibinigay sa iyo ng Diyos na dapat ay gamitin mo sa maayos na paraan at hindi sa panloloko ng kapwa tulad ng ginagawa ng maraming hinayupak na mga opisyal ng gobyerno.

 

  • Huwag mong pagnasahan na aabot sa inggit ang kagandahan ng iba dahil kapag pinilit mo at pina-retoke mo ang mukha at katawan mo at ang resulta ay hind bagay sa iyo, hindi ka na maibabalik sa dati mong anyo. Tanggapin mo kung anumang katawan o mukha ang ibinigay sa iyo ng Diyos…tandaan mong nandiyan lang palagi ang nanay mo na pupuri sa iyo kahit nililibak ka ng iba…kung buhay pa siya.

 

 

Kung ayaw mong namnamin ang nilalaman ng sini-share kong ito, bahala ka sa buhay mo!

Instead of Totally Relying on the Government, We Should Also Do Our Share of Action

Instead of Totally Relying on the Government,

We Should Also Do Our Share of Action

By Apolinario Villalobos

 

The Philippine government in general, is corrupt. Even with Duterte, known for his abhorrence of corruption is around, the grime that for long has soiled the image of the country still sticks. This is because those who are being used as instruments in the perpetration of this hideous anomaly are still in place, “licensed” by the civil service eligibility. And, that is the sad reality….

 

The aforementioned fact should make us realize that it is futile to be always blaming the government for everything that we find not pleasing to our eyes. It is true that the government should take care of our needs as tax payers….short of saying that we pay ALL government employees from the topmost down to the lowest rank to serve us using the tax we pay. But, are we doing our share of action FOR SOME MATTERS THAT WE CAN DO AT OUR END?

 

We blame the government for the obnoxious public market and uncollected garbage…but are we cleaning our backyard of the long-abandoned and rotting garbage or ridding our front yard of the waist-high grasses that for long have grown thick or cleaning the street in front of our home or planting flowers or shrubs to help prettify our community or reporting to the police anomalies that we observe around us? Have we tried segregating our garbage and keep the recyclables and bury for composting those that should be, to lessen what are collected for dumping at the garbage site? Etc. etc. etc. Some of us even put fish scales and entrails in the garbage instead of burying them outright…simple act, yet, intentionally disregarded.

 

We blame the government for the drug problem in our community..but have we disciplined our children enough to veer them away from bad barkadas that introduce them to drinking, smoking, and finally, drugs? We blame the government for the internet cafes that are frequented by students who skip classes….but have we ever thought that such addiction started when we gave in to their whims to have expensive  “touch phones” that developed their fanatical adherence to this woeful technology?

 

We should realize that every time we point our forefinger to somebody as an act of accusation, our three fingers are pointing at us. There is a need to take a second look at ourselves…there is a need for a reflection to know, if at least, we have been or are….GOOD FILIPINOS! IF NOT, WE SHOULD STOP CALLING OUR GOVERNMENT BAD, BECAUSE WE ARE PART OF IT…INSTEAD, WE SHOULD DO OUR PART OF ACTION!

 

WE ARE THE PHILIPPINES. IT SHOULD BE NOTED THAT IN INTERNATIONAL COMPETITIONS, PARTICIPANTS ARE CALLED BY THEIR COUNTRY’S NAME.