Most Lessons in Life
Are Like Bitter Pills To Swallow
By Apolinario Villalobos
It is a fact that some people who committed blunders, cannot take advices, suggestions, and reprimands with open mind. Pride, sadly stand in their way. Add to that the deeply-rooted attitude which for long has been taken for granted by affected parties. It takes a strong-spirited person or persons at times, to call the attention of the blunderer that he or she is out of tune, hence, not in harmony with the acceptable universal norms.
Unfortunately for the guilty, the resulting lessons that should be learned are bitter pills to swallow and which brings to mind the adage, “regrets always come at the end” . There is a universal practice to give the blunderer a second chance and even a third chance, for the sake of the “benefit of the doubt” and kind consideration. But if the blunder has been committed for the fourth time, which is a clear indication of defiance, there is no reason why appropriate action should not be imposed
Everybody has a blind spot and, this fact goes with the saying that unless we use a mirror, we cannot see our face. Only other people can tell us what our blind spots are. For the open-minded, this is fine, but for the arrogant, telling him or her about her “negatives” is not pleasant. The problem, however, is that, his or her “negatives” affect others.
In offices, the unbecoming attitude of inconsiderate employees has become a nagging problem of superiors and co-employees. These employees refuse to accept their mistakes despite mind-opening reprimands. Of course, there are ultimate penalties which could be suspension or termination, but for humanitarian reason, most offices are soft about them by avoiding their implementation as much as possible.
In this regard, among friends, there is always one or two who do not jive with the rest when it comes to attitude. Some friends abuse the trust and confidence given to them by their buddies. When finally, some of them could not take the contempt anymore, confrontation ensues with the barrage of truth coming out – hurting realization that indeed abuse has been committed. Of course, even for close friends who have patched up their differences, ill feelings may be considered as part of the past…water under the bridge. But a slight crack of distrust stays, and could already be beyond “repair”.