Do Not Feel Bad about Unfulfilled Dreams

Do Not Feel Bad
About Unfulfilled Dreams
By Apolinario Villalobos

There is a popular adage, “life is what we make it”. All of us have limitations, hence, it follows that the life we have today is based on those limitations. We cannot be like what others are. We can strive, yes…but the result may not be the same as what others have accomplished. The problem with some of us is that they dream to be like somebody else which is impossible. Successful people can be looked up to as models or be admired, but cannot be exactly copied, so that the same admiration that they enjoy can be also reaped.

Success is relative. The degree and kind of success varies. In this regard, to avoid getting disappointed, one should be contented with what he has accomplished based on his capability. He should not feel bad, for instance, because he did not become a manager like his friend, or a physician like another friend, or a mayor, etc. Those who develop grudge because of their “failure” supposedly, equate success to fame which is wrong. Others feel that just because they did not become famous like others, they have become a failure. I can say that such kind of feeling is jealousy which breeds grudge….nothing else.

We should not be occupied with gawking at what others are doing or being jealous with what they have accomplished. Each one of us has a different kind of life to live and concerns much different from the rest. On the other hand, the jealous attitude is most often the result of unnecessary and unhealthy rivalry in offices and other work sites. This is called professional jealousy which affects the operation and atmosphere.

On the other hand, successful people may wonder why some friends suddenly kept a distance from them for no reason at all. Now, there is something for these shunned successful people to ponder about…jealousy developed by these people who think that their dreams are not fulfilled. Such unnecessary feeling made them jealous resulting to grudge that time may not expunge easily. My suggestion: a change in attitude…by being positive in living one’s life.

4 thoughts on “Do Not Feel Bad about Unfulfilled Dreams

    • dapat ganyan ang attitude…kung baliktarin naman, there might be some friends of yours na nakikita ang success mo as a blogger na hindi nila na-attain…all of a sudden, parang nagbago ang pagtingin sa yo…it happened to me and that is the reason why I wrote the blog…mga close friends ko pa naman, mga classmates…nang mapansin nilang dumadami ang viewers ko, karamihan hindi na nila kilala, lalo na sa fb, unti-unti na silang dumistansya…nahuli ko ang feeling nila nang magkita kami noon, sa simpleng phrase lang na: “mabuti ka pa, maraming viewers ang blogs mo sa fb “, ibig sabihin may kinikimkim silang hinanakit..they want to write, pero hindi nila kaya….pero successful din sila sa field nila tulad ng politics, medicine, religious ministry, at business….dapat maging kuntento na sila….ako nga ay profuse palagi sa pag-appreciate ng success nila….on my part naman kasi, since bata pa kami, never na naging malungkot kaming magkakapatid dahil sa kahirapan namin….there was a time na nang nag-birthday ang isang kababata ko at kapitbahay pa, hindi ako inimbita (elementary kami noon), ayaw daw ng mommy niya na imbitahin ako….nagkasya na lang siya sa pagbigay sa akin ng ice (yelo) na ikinatuwa ko naman….pero wala akong hinanakit….naging drug-addict ang kababata kong yon until namatay na lang sa provincial jail sa amin….maraming colorful segments ang buhay ko…ang iba ay dinadaan ko sa tula….pinipili ko ang bina-blog ko, yong talagang mga relevant lang….problema kasi sa wordpress, automatic na nagpa-publish din sa fb kung saan nandoon ang mga viewers ko na pwedeng masagasaan, kaya ingat ako…

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      • Kaya I didn’t link my WordPress sa Facebook account ko lalo na at yung mga tula ko ay tungkol sa parents ko tapos yung poems sa ibang tao na baka magets yung hidden meaning ko HAHA hayy! people now a days.. di mo na alam talaga kung sino yung totoong kaibigan sa hindi eh -_- pero hayaan mo nalang sila 🙂 pagdasal mo nalang yung mga ugali nila 🙂 Maganda nga yung ginawa mong inspiration yung nangyari sayo in the past 🙂 You turned it into a positive one 🙂 Keep going and God Bless to you 🙂

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  1. good decision…in my case kasi, marami ang mga sa fb lang nagbabasa, tamad mag-open ng ibang sites….karamihan kasi mga senior citizens na….at ang gamit pa ay smartphone…thanks for the advz…

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