Politeness Can Go A Distance…at no cost

Politeness Can Go A Distance
At No Cost
By Apolinario Villalobos

Many idealistic people find it hard to be polite most of the time. These are the people with high standards when it comes to attitude. In their desire to let other people act like them, they become brutally frank and rude. I am one of them.

I admit my fault of being impolite sometimes, otherwise, I will not be truthful in this shared view. I cannot share what I do not know or practice or experience. And, I admit that rudeness has been part of my character as a person. A close friend told me about this and I believed him, so I had been trying to change my ways, ever since. Before, I had been enthusiastically desirous that others do what is “universally” accepted as the right thing to do. In the process, I forgot what I preached sometimes that no two persons are alike, even twins. And that, expectations then, differ on the kind of a person being dealt with. Perhaps, that could be the reason why Mr. Webster came up with the words, “good”, “better”, and “best” in his dictionary.

The only way to recognize and acknowledge the fact on personal differences is by being polite which takes a lot of practice for some people to assimilate in their system. One nice thing about having finally assimilated politeness, is the development of tolerance in our person. And by being tolerant, we avoid becoming judgmental. Politeness triggers so many goodness that a person can ask for. It can go a distance at no cost at all. I tried and proved it to be just right, that is why I am sharing it with viewers who I hope…can tolerate my insistence.

On Conquering Oneself

On Conquering Oneself
By Apolinario Villalobos

In every person, there is always the good and the bad sides. No man is free from having a bad side, not even saints, or even Jesus when he was still on earth, as shown by his cursing a fig tree that did not bear fruits…and, everybody knows that cursing is bad.

It takes much effort in telling ourselves on the mirror, how bad we are, as pride always gets in the way. And, most often, we justify our bad acts by telling ourselves that we did them for defense or that others are even worse than us.

If we want to change our ways, we should not compare ourselves with others on how they fare in acting badly which may be worse than us. We should amend our wicked ways first before we exert at least a bit of influence to change those of others. Also, we should open our minds and eyes on the inspiring ways of others that we could emulate.

In conquering ourselves, we should not let pride get in the way. Most importantly, while we have the noble intention to change our ways for the better, there is still a need that our spiritual foundation is strong enough to withstand the pressure of resistance which is innate in us. And, this is only possible by having an unwavering faith in Him.